Are You In A Relationship, Or Is Yours RelationFIT?
So there have been a few new studies out there that are correlating the relationship between loneliness and fitness. That’s one thing. Then there’s the other. Being in a relationship where you feel influenced by your man/woman/best friend/colleague/whoever. Let me put out the study first. For a study published online in December last year, they found four interesting (and wholly obvious, if you ask me) things: 1. Single women were fit. 2. Once they got married, they got fat. 3. Men got fit after divorce. 4. Once they remarried, they let themselves go.
As far as I’m concerned, lonely is a state of mind. And you can change that state of mind and realize that if you keep a negative way of thinking, you and only you can get yourself out of it. Yes you can, too.
Now, this article got me thinking about how the choices we make for who we hang out with and the types of people we choose as our friends and colleagues – HUGELY shape (yeah, the pun is intended here) us and steer us to a fitness direction, either way. Now, this means if you hang out with fat people who’s idea of weekend adventure is to go see two movies in a row at the cinema – then you are probably going to get fat, just like them. And if your choice of friends are people like my friend B who I met in the gym, then – well, you’re going to end up the same way as people like my friend B. We hang out, talk all things fitness, workout our gorgeous asses off – and then go on about our day. Hanging out with B, keeps her and me in company with each other: girls who love and value fitness and being beautiful inside out.
Obesity is contagious and of course it has a lot to do with us as individuals. If you want to stay fit, pick people – especially partners – who also have the same core values of being fit. In my opinion, don’t let being single change anything. Just hang around those lovelies/peeps that make fitness as important a priority as you do as long as you pick friends who have a common interest, whether they’re male or female. As long as they have the same goals of being healthy, well, fit and thin. That way when you are looking for something to do over the long weekend, you all will have something common in mind to go do.
The ideal situation is if you can find a man (or woman) who shares the same passion for wellness as you. Now look, if you don’t mind ending up losing sight of your fitness ways then by all means – get involved with or marry a FAT partner. But be careful or your ass is going to join theirs in the lack of wellness. Trust me. I’ve dated overweight guys who overate and I’ve dated guys who are black belts and the ones that I find difficult are the ones who don’t care from within as because I can’t tell them what to do (as far as being physical). If a partner wants to be physically fit by influence instead of just because he or she is being told to, THAT is the true meaning of fitness from within.
Now, going back to single people vs. those in relationships, here is my landmark thought for the day: As long as you’re happy, it doesn’t MATTER if you’re single or not. Single people tend to be more fit. Single, HAPPY people are healthy. And by the same token, a lot of studies show that people in happy and strong relationships are healthy. So here’s the no-brainer folks: people in CRAPPY relationships, are usually sick and they keep getting sicker. And it isn’t that surprising, is it?
My words of wellness today: Be fit. Be around fit people. Be happy. Stay in happy relationships. All will be well and you will continue to live well.
Dr. Veronica – Wellness for the Real World