Are You Picky Or Going About It The Wrong Way?
By Guest Blogger Dema Shamel
Most of us are no stranger to creating a long list of qualities and traits that we look for in our potential mates. What is it that makes us believe that we can customize this person? When creating this list do we normally put everything we have to offer in prospective? Are we aware that no one is perfect, not even ourselves?
Writing a book about women getting what they want from men has allowed me to test and investigate many theories on conventional dating, and I’ve just about heard it all. Commonly, it seems like everyone is in a rush for instant results for everything and women are no exception. Most women are looking for this pre-packaged and ready to go guy, as if he is something that you can simply pop in the microwave or receive delivered to your door. Without putting any work into a situation it seems that women expect guys to be fully equipped with all the best features “on demand”.
Although we all have internal and external flaws of our own for some reason we lose sight of that when we begin preparing our list of characteristics of our ideal mate’s must haves. It appears that most people are looking for a“10”, but when asked if they consider themselves to be a “10” the answer is no. As soon as a guy says something that isn’t favorable to a woman she will immediately lose interest in him. How can it be expected for a guy to know how to respond if they do not know you well? Do you know how to take the appropriate steps to qualify and determine if a guy would be willing to learn you?
As little girls it is pretty obvious that we have been conditioned to believe everything that has been presented to us. From playing with dolls and watching the female role in our families and magazines we have been under a spell all of our lives. It wouldn’t be strange to say that boys and girls are brought up in different worlds and maybe this is the beginning of miscommunication that we experience between the sexes once we’re adults. Before embarking on the journey of looking for love, a woman should take a moment to really get to know herself. This should include learning and growing from personal experience, forgetting everything that society has taught us to believe about love and life, and setting rules you choose to live by.
Never think a man is the perfect piece to your life’s puzzle, he should only be there because you chose him. Don’t be too quick to think you are supposed to be in a relationship because you have a great career, nice home or apartment, and a more than decent set of wheels. Furthermore, instead of creating a long list of attributes you seek in him start off by completing an unbiased list of qualities you possess.
DEMA SHAMEL is the author of Women: Get The Material Things You Really Want From Men. Women noticed that I was successful at acquiring what I really want from men. They began asking me for advice and received proven results. Naturally, it was insisted that I share this information with all women. From chapter to chapter I explain every skill, technique, and secret that has successfully worked for many women. For more information on article or author please visit getwhatyouwantnow.net