It’s official. Your butt looks big, and it is.
Every day I look at my butt in the mirror and it just looks huge to me. I have been asked by men what is the best part of my body and I always answer that they can see when I walk away. It’s my backside and I know it looks good because I’ve been told by both men and women. One day in the salon, which is staffed and frequented my white women, I was told that I have a J-Lo butt. Although I take this as a compliment, I believe J-Lo has a black girl butt and that is why she is famous. All the in shape brown sisters I know got it going on from the back view. (Men stop having those fantasies right about now)
But, this is not about my phat butt. Its about the FAT FAT and FAT butts on most Americans, men and women. Guess what? They are too fat and the people who are too fat don’t seem to see it. This has been verified by sicientifice research and now even has a name: Body Size Misperception.
I see this at the gym. Men who are in not so great shape stand in front of the mirror admiring their beer bellies smiling. We all should feel good about ourselves; however, can these men just get real and realize that we women do not think they are sexy?
Women? Listen up. Do not parade around in your thong and midriff with the fat rolls coming out from everywhere. Get real. If you look down and you can’t see the thong and all you see it your big Buddha belly? Yes,this means you are fat and you need to lose some weight. I am telling you the truth for your own good. It is not just about how you look from the outside either. If you look like that from the outside, very, very likely that the inside is really ugly and on its way to disease and pain. Stop aksing your doctor why your knees and back hurt and then getting mad at them when they tell you it’s from the extra weight.
American has an epidemic of body size misperception and it’s not the skinny folks who think they are fat that is at issue here. If you can rest your hand on your stomach like Santa Claus and you think you are just fine, you get an F in the course called Honesty. If you look in the mirror and see a size 0 supermodel and you are built like a sumo wrestler, I award you and F-. If you have to ask your husband if your butt looks big in a certain outfit, the mere fact that you are asking the quesion means you already know that it does look big because it is, so you get a C- because at least you asked the question and thoought that there may be a problem.
Next time i go to Puerto Rico, I just don’t feel like seeing some girly with sloppy fat hanging over their bikini.
I will admit one thing to you though. I am a bit jealous of folks who live in that fantasy world feeling so good about themselves that they ignore the obvious. I want to know why after I go spinning and running and yoga-ing that I still feel like crap in my bathing suit even after being told that I have a beautiful body. I do have the mantra that I believe but I just don’t want anyone else scrutinzing it. Here it is : “I am beautiful on the outside. I am beautiful on the inside. I deserve the best.” I know that what I do to keep my outside looking radiant and beautiful and what I put on the inside keeps me strong and well and glowing from the inside out. Truth be told: Fit wellness is beautiful.
Dr. Veronica-Welness for the REAL World