Sex Ed Bootcamp: Start It At Home

By Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique

There is no one that can replace a parent when it comes to instilling values into children. As a nation, we are still hesitant to talk about sexuality and sex and children are suffering as a result. Only 5% of college students report ever getting meaningful information about sexuality from their parents. We do not advocate that students engage in sexual activity, but 70% of college students surveyed are sexually active. 50% (half) of the 18-24 year old students will get a sexually transmitted disease while in college. We work at college campuses with students and these lessons should be taught at a much earlier age. In other countries where they talk more freely about body functions and teach their children to love their bodies, they have do not engage in sexual activities until they are older and have a lower rate of unwanted pregnancies and fewer sexually transmitted diseases.

Teaching your children about sexuality and sex is the most difficult conversation that a parent should have with their children. It is from you that they learn to value their bodies and to understand the natural body functions that we all experience. Today’s young people have access to a higher level of information from the internet, TV, and social media. Many parents are the ones who are uncomfortable with having an intimate talk about sexuality and sex. If we can overcome our personal fears about talking about sexuality and sex, and instill positive lessons about self love, maybe we can make a difference and the deadly diseases will become smaller numbers. This must include practical knowledge about disease prevention, the use of condoms and that sex should be a pleasurable experience for both partners. Even if your child chooses to maintain their abstinence, when they ultimately want to marry, their partner may have been sexual with other people. They may carry diseases without knowing about it as they often have no symptoms. These diseases may cause cancer and even sterility or death.

Please, help our young people know that you love them enough to reach outside your comfort zone and to provide them with the information to protect them. We understand that even the Pope recently has acknowledged that the use of condoms reduce the spread of disease. We have resources on our website that are free for anyone who wishes to learn about condoms and safe sex information. Our motto is “Protect Your Privates”. We take this seriously as most teens are curious about sex.  It was decisively concluded that just “saying No” isn’t working well enough.  There are no “do overs” when it comes to diseases and pregnancy. With your help we can save your children from deadly diseases and allow them to have the blessed life that they deserve.

The first step is to engage your children in conversation. Ask them how they feel about themselves from the inside out.  They feel misunderstood (much like we did at their age).  Get to know who they are friends with in person and online. Embrace them as the adults that they are becoming! Provide them with condoms even if you want them to be abstinent -as one of their friends may need a condom and you may save them too.  You have more power than you know! Your children have told us that they would prefer to hear about sex from their parents. If it is too uncomfortable for you to talk to them directly, get them resources like the books that Dr. Veronica’s mother was so wise to provide.  Our current recommendation is S.E.X. by Heather Corinna.  We do not want our children to stumble, but we need to be there to pick them up if it happens. You may email us with questions at info@SexEdBootcamp.com.  We are on your side, please find the strength to become your children’s source of love and understanding and guide them on their way to adulthood.

We are Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique, college presenters of Sex Ed Boot Camp. Our program is designed to give students empowering information for when and if they decide to become sexual. Our program focuses on self love, self respect and safe sex practices in a non-judgmental environment. We provide information to keep them healthy as they navigate through the transition into adulthood and talk about the benefits of a meaningful relationship as the ideal model for when to share your body with another person.

Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique are sexologists, authors of Love Her Right and radio hosts. Currently, Dr. Joni and Esther are speaking on college campuses about healthy sexuality and safe sex practices all over the US. Our motto “Take Care Of Your Privates” says it all. Our goal is to empower students to make wiser decisions about  if, when and with whom to become sexual  and to celebrate their sexuality as they define it. Our website is www.SexEdBootCamp.com.