Sexy Has No Age Limit

You’re only as old as you feel.  No matter what the person’s age, it is only fair that if they want to be in the company of other “love” or even “like” interests, they ought to look good.  I’m not saying deck yourself in tons of makeup and be swimming in so much cologne that it asphyxiates the next person.  But what I am saying is that taking care of yourself is an indication of a happy, healthy and well-rounded individual and there is no reason to let age be a factor of letting this important fact slip by.

In a recent New York Times article, the author talks about how more and more older people are engaging in plastic surgery to look and feel better while experiencing fabulous times during their golden years.  Though it seems that the number of women that are keen on bettering their physical attributes is greater than men, there is no reason why men couldn’t jump on this bandwagon.  Why, pray tell, is it taboo for women to want their men to look good?

For decades, even more, we as a society have been conditioned to expect that the man is rough and tough and there is no need for him to look great.  By the same token, women have been facing and living up to crazy social mores that dictate years of “keeping up appearances”.  What about feeling good, about yourself and for yourself within?  In my book, that is what matters most.  There is no secret that people who are healthy from within are better partners, better parents, more fun to be with and definitely better to look at.  If the men in this world – especially those who have crossed that invisible line that makes them “elderly” – all did something about their appearance, just think how happy all us women would be.

There is an article on the CNN Living website that mentions sex and dating after the age of 50.  It’s good reading, especially when you consider that 50 is the new 35 for many people and there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to live it up either.  I have something important I want to add though.  Keeping in mind that most people who went to high school during a time of drive-ins and burgers plus malts served by waitresses on roller skates, you have to deal with the relatively new found independence that women of today have.  Since these days women in general are far more empowered than they might have been a few decades ago, there is a new dynamic to contend with when you talk about dating for this age demographic.

In my constant pursuit of Social Media Medicine and the ways it can enhance my life even further, I often come across so many eligible men on Facebook rather than on sites like Match.com.  Interesting to note is that it’s not those unattractive pictures of men that are pulling the ladies in.  Obviously it’s the ones who have spent some time on themselves and made an effort to brush up on their own physical attributes. There is no shortage of great looking men out there so naturally, my friends consistently complain about tired and out of shape old men who we repeatedly come across.  Back in the day, money might have been the trading factor but no longer is that true.

So in this day and age of Viagra when men are encouraged to extend their sexual lives to beyond what conventional wisdom of yesteryear may have deemed “appropriate”, I see no qualms in men focusing on their physical, mental and sexual health.  I, for one, will not even look twice in the direction of a tired, old-looking man who has love handles that are older than Smithsonian displays.  Not a chance.  I do love to read about those spectacular people who are running marathons at age 85 or adopting organic living despite age-old stigmas that could easily have locked them into another era.  These are the same people who engage others in stimulating conversation rather than complain about aches and pains.  They look fantastic; they know it and they exude an aura of intense positive energy all around them.

During a time when many young people are not concerned with their health and wellness, I applaud the women, like 77 year-old Mary Graham featured in New York Times this week, who got breast implants because she “wanted to look as young as I feel.”  Bravo!  Now, if we could just get the men to follow in her footsteps.